If God loves me why does he let me hurt? If God loves me why do I suffer sometimes?
To examine this I could easily spout off scripture like Isaiah 55:8 and 9. This scripture is about God’s ways being above our ways. I could point to Rom 8:28 where all things work together for the good of those who love God. Both of these scriptures are true, however I will use an example that we will understand first hand. The example is that of a child and parent.
When you were a child did you ever think that your parents let you suffer needlessly? Did your kids ever think that you let them suffer? What about the times when you tell your kids or you yourself were told not to do something? The Bible for example tells us to not engage in sin. Often times we do and then we blame God for it not working out. Is that something that you have done before? How often do we study the Bible to know what sin is? Unfortunately now we live in a society that is “Me” driven. We are about pleasure before principle. If we avoid sin we are certain to have a much more fulfilling life.
Sometimes we don’t feel loved and we think God is not giving us what we need. Many times in my life God has not given me something that I thought I needed. I have learned to pay attention to these times and I try to focus on Philippians 4:6 where the Lord tells us to be anxious for nothing. More often than not when I want something and I don’t get it there is a very good reason. Sometimes I already had the item that I wanted, or I have one that works better than the one that I wanted. There are other times when I really want something and I try to give it to the Lord. The opportunity passes with me not able to get what I wanted in the first place. Here is the funny part after the opportunity passes me by and things change, I am often happy that it didn’t work out. God really does have our best interests at heart.
The unfortunate truth is that when sin entered the world, pain and suffering entered as well. Free will also comes at a cost as more often than not one individual’s free will causes another to hurt and suffer. For example, a person’s free will to drink and drive cost’s a family a loved one. Or a person’s free will to choose self over life takes away the free will of over 600,000 babies a year.
To get to a point where God can be trusted we must interact with Him. If God’s promises are understood see if he ever breaks one. As faith in God increases it becomes easier to trust Him more. God never promised us that our lives would be free of hurt and suffering if we choose to follow Him. In fact he tells us in John 16:33 that we will have tribulation. But He also promises us that He will never leave us nor forsake us. And He explains to us in Romans 5 that “We rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” If you ever have questions feel free to contact me and I will help you in any way I can and neither our conversations nor your information is ever shared.