Worth Dying For

                           When looking at being all in I have examined debt, fear, and now something worth dying for. When I was first going to church and just exploring the whole idea of Jesus I didn’t get it when they talked about Him dying on a cross for us. I felt like it was the same thing over and over again. It felt like lunacy to me because it was the same old story over and over trying to produce in me a result and it wasn’t working at all. I believe I am beginning to understand now that a sinless sacrifice named Jesus took the penalty that I deserved instead of me. When we understand what Jesus did for us by dying on the cross we are supposed to follow His example in our own life. I believe this demonstrates that we are able to go all in with something if we are willing to die for it.

              So what do I mean by “Die for”? I have heard that something is “To die for” before and the meaning can definitely be lost. In this context I mean when we die that comes to an end without turning back. In Ephesians 5 women are commanded to submit to your own husbands as to the Lord. That means in a sense you die for your husband because you surrender your will to his. Women of God are supposed to do this and there are no foot notes stating unless you want to, or only if he deserves it. Ladies you are supposed to surrender your will and submit no matter what. Men in the same chapter we are commanded to love our wives just like Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her. This means that we as men give ourselves to our wives, to the point of death. I know some women who won’t submit to their own husbands in spite of what the Bible says. I also know some men who aren’t willing to love their wives and give of himself to her. If I am told in God’s word how to handle marriage and I’m not willing to follow it then am I all in? Now these are thoughts designated for the general marriage we are not called on to be abused and in questionable situations get help please if this describes you. The Lord doesn’t want you abused and neither do I.

In Mat 16:24 we are told to deny ourselves, in Galatians it mentions crucifying the flesh, what does that mean? If we crucify the flesh do we stop eating, I don’t think I can do that! Are we allowed to have fun? Can we still act like humans after all we are like flesh, right? I have seen some people with these huge fake smiles on their faces to show the joy of the Lord, or they act somber all of the time! Some people try to act holy by denying things hurt them or acting like they don’t get angry. In short the way that we deny ourselves we put our sinful desires to death and don’t do them anymore which is much harder than pretending that we are something that we aren’t. I believe we are all in if we are willing to suffer for it. Just like Jesus is all in and he showed it by suffering for us to the point of dying on a cross while I was in sin. Are we willing to suffer for our marriage? If we have a lustful eye, look the other way. In Job 31 Job states that he has made a covenant with his eyes, we can train ourselves to look the other way. We sometimes have to deny ourselves things that have become sin for us. We go to things that we use to cope with stress and these things are sometimes sinful. Where I used to live there was a jewelry store and they had some very interesting billboard ads to say the least. All of these advertisements were aimed at the man and telling him the way to show love was to buy a ring. What if a better way to show love to our mate existed? What if the way that we used to show love was to deny ourselves what gives us pleasure, even if it makes it hard or painful for you? What if this pursuit of pleasure was yielded for the desires of our mate? In other words we put their needs before our own. The pursuit of pleasure that we deny can come from all sorts of directions. If you think it is what is bothering your marriage, then stop. If you can’t stop maybe you have an addiction. What if the way that we used to show love was to submit to our husband, even if we didn’t agree with him? What if the way we show love to our wife is to do what she wanted, even if you don’t like it. If more people showed that they were all in so many more positive things would happen in life.

I used marriage as only an example. This is one of the few things that most everyone comes into contact with throughout life. Some marriages are done very well and show this giving and others aren’t, but we can learn from both. Now onto another example, what about something the Lord wants you to do? What about something that you feel that you need to try? I have a word that is one of the worst things to try and live through, regret. Regret is something that I have lived through and I don’t want my children to have to endure such a terrible experience in life. When we regret it makes us hold back a little each time. Eventually with enough of it we are too frightened to do anything at all with our lives. We know how something made us feel and we don’t want to feel that way anymore. So to compensate we try not to make the same mistake twice. For example, when we love someone and they break our trust. We see that we let that person in and what they did so we will never do that again. I am reminded of the old adage, “It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all”. When we see negative things that can happen we have a tendency to never let that happen again.

Is there anything that the Lord is prompting you to do and are resisting? Is there anything that needs to be accomplished, but you are afraid of failure (see previous write up)? One reason why we started this blog and moved to New York is that we don’t want to feel regret. I also don’t want my children to feel regret, so I am trying to show them that taking some risks is good. If we take some risks then we are not going to ask later in life “What if”. I am going to know how it felt to sell a bunch of stuff and move across the country. I am going to know what it’s like to have a blog. I don’t want to ever wonder about some of these things. What are some things in your life that you are afraid that you will wonder about? Is it more important how people are going to think about you (which you can’t control anyway); or is it more important to try something new?

So what have you not done? What is something in your life that you have wondered about because you didn’t do it? Is it too late to do it now? I know how hard some of this can be and how scary it is. What if you went the direction that God wanted you to go? Would your faith come to life as you rely on God? My wife and I were just talking on Sunday about how crazy we were to move here the way we did, but we will never wonder about it! I encourage you to go all in as you see what is just beyond the bend.